DISCUSSION THURSDAY! Ok, that isn’t really a thing here at Twilight Sleep, but I have a lot of discussion topics that I’m going to start sharing with everyone. STARTING NOW!
Today’s topic: How Do You Handle Your Personal Life vs. Your Blog Life?
Well, what do you mean by that, Shannon? What I mean is, do you mix your personal life with your blog life? Or do you keep the two totally and completely separate?
I, for the most part, have tried to keep mine separate. My Facebook profile is completely separate from my Facebook page, my blog Twitter account is completely separate from my personal Twitter account, etc. However, there are times when the two overlap. Sometimes I talk about things that have happened in my personal life (mostly how much I don’t like my job – uncool, but I do it) on my blog Twitter and vice versa. I really do try to limit this overlap; MORE SO on my blog Twitter because I don’t want to bore my bookish followers with the details of my drab life and other reasons – but sometimes I personally create it (like with this post) because I don’t think people should be boxed in and made to feel UNABLE to talk about *certain* personal things in a public forum.
I follow some bloggers who practice no such thing though, and feel completely comfortable talking about their personal lives (their children, their romantic relationships, how their days go, etc.) on their blogging accounts. This doesn’t bother me at all. There are others who never say anything that’s not book-related. That doesn’t bother me either. I like to consider myself a pretty laid back person in spite of a few people I know who would argue that.
But today I got a bit of a shock when someone told me that they (and apparently others who have commented to them about me) think I’m a very emotional and passive aggressive tweeter. The emotional I’ll give you, but the passive aggressive part took me for a total loop. I was completely unaware that I was giving off that impression. I know now, and I will more carefully monitor the things I tweet and post – but I’m not going to become someone who has no personality whatsoever either. While I would love to, and I honestly do try, I cannot please everyone. If I have ever offended any of you, I sincerely apologize – that’s never been my intention. And passive aggressively tweeting has never been my intention either; as I said, I honestly can’t even think of a tweet I’ve written that could have been taken as passive aggressive although I’m sure there’s been at least one. It’s just odd to me because I’ve never had a reason to BE passive aggressive – I’ve never had a bad relationship with any of my fellow bloggers other than one or two minor issues which I did not make public. So where is this coming from?
Admittedly, today I did a public poll about a situation I was in at the time. I thought I did a good job of not giving out any information that would point to the person I was in the situation with…but I can see how it could be considered rude that I brought it up publicly at all. Again, it was not my intention to offend or be rude – I was honestly just looking for some quick opinions on what others would do if the event happened to them. I have since apologized to this person for making the situation public and they were gracious and polite AND they also apologized to me and we have worked through what ended up being just a misunderstanding. But the situation has caused strife between me and someone else who wasn’t even involved, and that saddens me.
I won’t go on about my experiences any longer but I had to put this out there even though I can imagine it will probably further incense that certain someone. I hate drama, but more than that I hate it when people are judging me for something that I don’t even realize I’m doing. That’s why I have an honesty policy – I always approach people if I have issues with them, I don’t just sit back and judge silently…because how can you truly know a person’s intent if you haven’t even tried to talk to them about it? Of course, you shouldn’t dish it out if you can’t take it, so I encourage this honesty policy with all my friends as well. I want to know if something I’ve done is causing you to resent me! So many times things like this end up just being a misunderstanding, and I think it’s absolutely silly to destroy relationships over things so trivial and immature. So that being said, I really want to know…have I come across as passive aggressive, rude, or otherwise mean to any of you? You can comment here or if you want to email me to discuss it, please feel free to do so: shannon at twilightsleep dot net – just whatever you do, if you choose to respond PLEASE ON THE NAME OF ALL YOU HOLD PRECIOUS BE HONEST.
I can’t become a better person if I never know the effect I’m having on others.
And back to the original topic, what about you? How do you mix the two? Or do you? Would love to hear any and all thoughts on the matter.